Hello again, darlings. I hadn't intended to post again so soon, but I literally could not resist. My attention was called to the fact that the
Jersey state assembly is to vote today on whether or
not to prohibit ‘gay conversion therapy’ for minors. My reaction varied from
happiness that this could put an end to conversion therapy for kids, to shock
to hear that this was something still going on. How is this
even a thing in this day and age? And why is it OK for
someone, presumably a medical or psychological professional, to arbitrarily try
to force a child to “become un-gay”?
What's worse, I’m relatively certain that these medical types aren’t standing around on street-corners, watching out for ‘deviant behavior’ and rounding up little gay kiddies to do this to, all on their own. In most cases, I’m willing to bet it’s the child’s parents and/or guardians making these decisions – decisions that will at best confuse and, at worst, do immeasurable and irreparable harm.
“But Unicorn,” I hear you saying, “Not everyone is gay, or even LGBTQ tolerant. Some people think being gay is a sin, and should be ‘corrected’ by any methods required. They feel the end justifies the means, since – let’s face it – being LGBT or Q in today’s world isn’t exactly a walk in the park. They’ll be better off cured, and surely the ends justify the means.”
(Actually, if you’re saying that, you probably wandered into this blog by mistake. But you know what I mean. Someone could be saying that, somewhere...) So -
Let's take this in a direction accessible to most people. Say, for instance, that you hate lima beans. (I have nothing personally against lima beans. In fact, I’m lima bean neutral, probably more ‘questioning’ than anything else, or possibly 'lima bean curious'.) But you can’t stand them. That’s cool. It's a free country and you don't have to eat them if you don't want to.
Then some group of supposed-professionals decides that 'everyone who knows better' thinks that lima beans are the best food in the universe. Stupendous, superb, the nectar of the gods, and everyone should have lima beans three times a day, to the exclusion of all other foods. (Stay with me, here... This is how allegory works. We'll come back full circle by the end.) Well, those people are welcome to think that if they want to, but that doesn't change your opinion, right? Right. Fine.
But now let's say that group of people decides that anyone who doesn't share their opinion on what food is the most delicious is mentally and morally sick, so much so that they are incapable of realizing that they're sick at all, and they then decide that it's in the best interests of everyone involved to use barbaric methods of torture (which is really what aversion therapy is when you clean it up) to 'convert' those poor, sick, lima-bean-hating folks - like you.
What I have to ask you now is this:
A) Is that fair? And,
B) Do you really think that you will honestly grow to love lima beans...? Or -
C) Are you far more likely to pretend to like them to stop the punishment, while secretly dooming yourself to a life of never, ever again eating anything you like?
Never, for the rest of your life, spending every day sickened by the food that you have to eat, and despising yourself for not loving it the way 'normal' people do?
For not only not wanting those damned lima beans, but for daring to want something different to eat?
Hating yourself for loving something different, something you must never, ever have, until - worst case scenario - you either starve yourself to death, or take a shorter way out, to avoid bringing shame and embarrassment on your friends, family and other loved ones for failing them in so ‘simple’ a way.
Do you eat the lima beans? Or (like the cake in the game), are the beans a lie?
(I'll give you two guesses and the first one doesn't count.)
Yeah, sounds like a shitty idea to me, too.
I dream of a day that I hope isn’t too far off now, when we’re all free to follow our hearts, to eat lima beans or not, by no one else’s decisions but our own.
Thanks for reading, darlings. And, as always, be fabulous to each other!