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Sunday, August 13, 2017

So it took literal #Nazis to bring me out of hiding again... #Charlottesville

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So. I've spent most of the past 24 hours on Twitter, watching live streams and footage, and then the incredible, unbelievable aftermath, of the alt-right rally and counter-protest in #Charlottesville. I'm tired now, and have to close my browser and step away for a bit, maybe have a cup of tea. I'm feeling overwhelmed, as a lot of us probably are. But as I was on the way to make that tea, I found I had something I needed to say. This is it. (Click 'read more' below to continue)

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Why Intersectionality isn't working (but we desperately need it to!)

NOT MY ART. Sad Unicorn by Applejazz
Hello, Darlings. Long time, no Unicorn. May as well just jump straight in, eh?

So, here's something that sucks. This is part of the reason why 'intersectionality' is so difficult. We HAVE to make feminism intersectional if we want the movement to have any long-lasting positive outcome in today's sociopolitical environment. I don't know the exact number, but I heard it estimated that 94% of women of color felt disenfranchised by the Women's March on DC, that it didn't reflect their interests, or that they were unwelcome; that it was only a march by their white sisters FOR their white sisters, and no one else. Obviously, that's a huge problem, and a huge division. I also know that I am not the only white woman who feels that it's a huge problem, and who is looking for a way to bridge that divide.

Since the election, I've done a lot of Googling of what to do to try to mend the gap, for ways of trying to help the cause of WOC/POC by using my #whiteprivilege, since I can't get away from it. I may as well use it for good, if possible, right? Or at least try to learn how to stop using it to inadvertently harm.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

I am proud of you today, wherever you are.

Greetings, Darlings. My heart is so full, all I can say is how proud I was to be a part of the TWO AND A HALF MILLION - MILLION!! - marchers who turned out today to show our patriotic dissent. We may be in for a long four years, but we will not give up, and #WeWillNotBeSilenced.

Thank you, those who turned out in any of the MANY marches, and also to those who supported us from at home (or wherever). My <3 is bursting.

Live coverage of marches across the US

No matter what happens, or how anyone (::ahemDERGROPENFUHRERahem::) tries to slant what happened today, they cannot undo what we turned out to do. And this is just the beginning. We are #TheResistance.

Thank you, Darlings. Keep marching. In the words of one of my favorite films, "Never give up. Never surrender."

Friday, November 11, 2016

Why we are killing ourselves over this - and why you need to understand it.

Hello, Darlings. I want to share this. It's a response I typed to a friend this morning who didn't understand why people were killing themselves over these recent political events. This is a person I respect and love (in a friendy way), but who is not one of the groups affected most by this election. It occurred to me after writing it that maybe it would be help some others understand better, too. 

P.S. This comes straight, unedited, from my personal FB wall. It may lack the usual wittiness and charm you've come to expect from this blog, but frankly, I'm not feeling terrifically witty or charming today. Hopefully some other day. If we make it that long.

(Re: A bunch of people killed themselves when Elvis died, and John Lennon.) Let me explain why this is so VERY, very different...

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

The day after Election Day, 2016

Hello, Darlings. My heart is full, but my brain is still in shock. Rather than say all the stunned, horrified, grief-stricken things that are clamoring to get out, I will offer only this: a moment of silence for the death of what our country could have been - should have been - today.

Stand together, Darlings, and take strength from each other. We may be down, but we are not beaten. Do not give up. Take time to mourn - and it may take a lot of time - and take care of yourselves and each other. Then, when that is done, get angry. Get busy. Get determined to stay in this to win it, and not surrender until we do. And not even then.

Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Some thoughts regarding Bernie-or-Bust, third party voting, or anger-abstinence this November...

Hello, Darlings. I've tried to keep quiet on this one, but alas, to no avail. (As you're about to see. Please grab your fireproof underwear in advance of this one. I'm afraid my tolerance has just boiled right damn over.)

Many of you, like me, are disappointed that Hillary won the Democratic nomination over Bernie. Very disappointed. I get that. Believe me, I do. I had such high hopes that finally we were ready as a country to move in the direction of true equality, and away from oppression and hate. Health care! Education! All those good things.

Instead, we get Hillary.

Now, instead of moaning about that, which is neither here nor there, the time has come to suck it up, buttercups, and stand fully behind the only candidate with a chance of winning that can be allowed to win.

Trump cannot be allowed to win. 

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Post-Orlando: On fear, on guns, and on living queer in 2016

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Hello, Darlings. Just a short babble this morning, frankly because this is a topic that  makes me tremble with fear, and I don't want to put more of that out into the Universe today.

I posted on Facebook this week that I was a little surprised and saddened to see less outrage and dismay from the straight community over the Pulse Nightclub Massacre in Orlando than I'd seen earlier over Harambe the gorilla was shot when a child climbed into his enclosure at the zoo. Many people - straight or community - agreed with me; they had seen the same thing on their Facebook feeds. Oh, a lot of straight people immediately took up the Pulse tragedy as a platform for gun control, but few mentioned the larger issue: that LGBTQ people are under attack in America right now, perhaps to a higher degree than we have been since the early days of our struggle for civil rights and acceptance.

In fact, I saw a lot of community doing the same thing - ignoring the bigger, scarier picture, and focusing on the guns, guns, guns.

Monday, June 13, 2016

To the Victims of the Pulse Nightclub Massacre (and the victims everywhere, every day)

I am so sorry.

To each of you who were murdered, I am sorry.

To all of the other lgbtq folk murdered this year, and every year, by people in this country, I am sorry.

To those murdered anywhere, again, I am so, so very sorry.

Too many deaths to count. Too many deaths.

How long do we let this culture of dehumanization and violence continue, where our brothers and sisters (and anyone anywhere in between, or neither) can be gunned down, knifed down, stomped on, beaten, or otherwise destroyed because some people think a man in the sky said only straight people deserve to live?

Where is our dignity?

Where is our right to pursue happiness, to live freely, to live at all??

Why do you hate us, when what we do can have no bearing on your lives at all?

If you don't like us, that's your choice - you don't have to like us. But please, please, stop killing us, and stop protecting, encouraging and enabling those who do.

Call out the people you hear speaking hate about us.

Call out the politicians who propose bills oppressing us, under pretense of 'protecting women and children'.

Call out hate where you see it, wherever, whenever you see it.

And love each other, Darlings, just as hard as you can. Love is all we have.

Love is all.

Just a few of the victims of the Pulse Nightclub massacre.


Remembering the victims of the Pulse Nightclub Massacre (Orlando, Florida):

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34
Stanley Almodovar III, 23
Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20
Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22
Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36
Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22
Luis S. Vielma, 22
Kimberly Morris, 37
Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30
Darryl Roman Burt II, 29
Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 
Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 
Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 
Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 
Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 
Amanda Alvear, 25
Martin Benitez Torres, 33
Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37
Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26
Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35
Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25
Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31
Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26
Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25
Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40
Miguel Angel Honorato, 30
Joey Rayon Paniagua, 32
Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19
Cory James Connell, 21
Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37
Luis Daniel Conde, 39
Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33
Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25
Jerald Arthur Wright, 31
Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25
Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25
Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24
Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27
Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33
Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49
Yilmary Rodriguez Sulivan, 24
Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32
Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28
Frank Hernandez, 27
Paul Terrell Henry, 41
Antonio Davon Brown, 29
Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24
Remembering all of those who have lost their lives, everywhere, due to anti-LGBTQI violence and hate.

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

New Music Review from Phat Unicorn! - Paper Gods (Duran Duran)

Hello, Darlings. Just popping in to share with you a new music review from our sister blog, Phat
Unicorn! - 'Paper Gods' from Duran Duran.

Read it here, if you dare...

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Dalton Maldonado - Or, Be Nice to Kids, Damn it!

Greetings, Darlings. I know: long time, no Unicorn. I'm neglecting this blog shamefully, and I apologize to those of you who keep reading when I do eventually show up and open my mouth. (It always happens sooner or later.)

There has been a lot happening in our LGBTQAI-alphabet-soup world. Lots of it good, some of it less good. I've thought many times, "Oh, the Unicorn should babble about this or that," but other commitments drew me away. However, sometimes something strikes just the right note, and I can't help but open my mouth and let the words fall out.

This is one of those times.

Have you seen this face?

This is Dalton Maldonado, a student at Betsy Layne High School in Rural Kentucky. Now, Kentucky is not known to be a hotbed of liberal pro-gay folks on the best of days, but for some reason this one really, really got to me.

(And I promise it's not because he looks just the tiniest bit like Noah Puckerman from Glee!, and I've been reading far too many fanfics lately. Honestly, it's not. But that might have happened, though it has nothing to do with this post...)

Here's the article.

For those of you who don't have the time or inclination to read it, Dalton is a Senior, and a member of his school's basketball team. He's also openly gay. The school's yearbook allotted a two-page spread to all the senior boys on the team. Oh, wait - all of them  but Dalton.

Oh, Unicorn, I hear you sigh. With everything anti-gay that goes on in the world, you're upset about a kid who didn't get his photo in the yearbook? Priorities!

Well, in short, yeah. I am upset about this. And I do think it should be a priority. Just because he's not beaten (that we know of), or killed, or whitewashed out of a movie supposedly about a historic moment from LGBT history (::ahemSTONEWALLahem::) doesn't mean this doesn't matter.

Dalton is a kid. He's a senior, and nearly-an-adult, yes, but when it comes right down to it, he's a vulnerable young person on the cusp of the rest of his life. (As so many other kids are, too.) Dalton is a symbol of all the other LGBT kids in the world today, whose safety and well-being we entrust every day to their schools - and his school let him down. Big time.

Is his world going to end because he's not in the yearbook photo with the rest of his basketball team? No, of course not. (Well, we certainly hope not, anyhow.)

Is he physically wounded, hospitalized, or left for dead? No, obviously not. This type of bullying - which is exactly what this is, institutionalized bullying, sanctioned and committed by those who are supposed to protect our kids from this type of thing - leaves scars that linger longer than physical ones.

These kinds of blows hurt where we can't see them, and who knows what lasting damage that school has done to this boy by telling him they are ashamed of him, that he's something dirty and shameful and bad that must be hidden from the eyes of the world?

Dalton, dude, this is what I want to say to you:

Your school is wrong.

You're not bad, and you're not something disgusting that your school should feel ashamed of or hide.

You're just a kid, doing what any other kid does - trying to live your life, get by, and be as happy as you can be.

I don't know what can be done about this yearbook fiasco, and I don't know how your school should be made to make it up to you. They can't, really, and everyone knows it. But you don't need them. You're going to (hopefully) graduate, and get on with your life, and leave them far behind you, covered with dust in your rear-view.

But I want you to know that people all over the country - even the world, maybe - have got your back. We think what your school did stinks, and we know you deserve better. And you'll have it. Just hang in there, all right?

Also, here's the letter I emailed to your principal, Ms Akers, this afternoon when I read about what happened.

"Good afternoon, Ms. Akers. As you may or not be aware, this story of the non-inclusion of Dalton Maldonado in his senior yearbook is going viral. That a school in the United States of America in 2015 could be so backwards is greatly concerning. It is the place of schools to educate and nurture students - all students, not just those whose lifestyle is approved by the administration.
No matter your opinion of the lifestyle or sexual identity of Mr. Maldonado, he is still a student of your school, as well as a member of the basketball team and, as such, he should not have been omitted from the basketball spread for the team. To do otherwise not only is an insult, and extremely hurtful to the self-esteem of this student whose well-being should have been a priority of the school, but also reflects extremely poorly on the entire school in the eyes of the world.

Times have changed. This is not the 1950s, when people were required to hide their true feelings or sexual identities from everyone in order to avoid persecution. Now, most civilized societies recognize that ALL people are entitled to respect, dignity and to equal treatment. To fly against this, as your school has done in choosing to deny Mr. Maldonado his place in the yearbook with the rest of his basketball team, shouts that ignorance and bigotry are alive and well at Betsy Lane High School. Shame on you.

This type of intolerance and yes, bullying (which is what this is - institutionally sanctioned bullying, performed by those whose job it is to protect students from that type of hate) has no place in our world, especially in our schools.

Perhaps the people who made the decision to treat Mr. Maldonado so spitefully are the ones who should be 'omitted' from future contact with students in the school.

Respectfully hoping your eyes and heart are opened ~ "

In the big scheme of things, it probably won't accomplish anything, but I hope it at least makes her think.

And if not, to heck with them anyhow. You're better than they are. Shine on.

Note: If anyone else wants to voice their opinion to Ms Akers or the school, her email address is cassandra.akers@floyd.kyschools,us. (Please keep it constructive if you do - there is enough bad feeling in the world without adding more to it.)

Ok, Darlings. Do what you will with it, take it and run, run, run...

Until next time ~

Your faithful Babbling Unicorn

P.S. Feel free to comment. Unicorns LOVE comments!

Friday, June 26, 2015

SCOTUS Decision Day - Marriage Equality. Love wins!!! ::sniffle::

Oh, Darlings... Your faithful Unicorn is literally speechless with happiness right now. (Savor that - it happens so rarely.)

Today, love won.

::crying tears of happiness::

Congratulations, to all human beings today. The SCOTUS did the right thing today, and we will NEVER let them take this away from us.

#suckithaters #loveislove

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Let's talk about moral exemptions...

Hello, Darlings. Semi-longish time, no Unicorn, I know. Trust me, I know.

So many things have been happening in the world, so many topics flying by that have really moved me, in both positive and negative ways. Marriage equality gaining ground. Protections for trans*folk seeming to rally and then losing ground. Pizza places being boycotted (and threatened, which is a real no-no in my book, Darlings) for saying they would discriminate against same-sex couples and then raising $800K+ from sympathizers. Charities throwing pizza parties in retaliation to raise money for equality and safe treatment of LGBTQ kids. 

Lots happening in the world, and while some of it tempted me to pick up my pen again, I managed to refrain, knowing that I would merely be railing at the sky, and probably expressing venom and rage instead of contributing productively to the conversation.

Today, however, a story crossed the FB feed of Yours Truly that really caught my eye. I had intended to just share the article (with the addition of a caustic comment or two) and then move on, but the comment turned into an outpouring, and - voila! - here we are again. 

What finally broke my silence? An article titled "Woman Suffering Miscarriage Says WalMart Refused to Fill Her Prescription".